Why I Am Not The Best Youth Pastor For Your Teen

I’d like to confess something to you. It’s a dangerous confession, but one I think you need to hear.  I’m not the best youth pastor for your teenager. That’s right, there is someone much more qualified, better equipped, and who has exceedingly more influence over your teen than me. At this point, some of you are thinking, “Duh, Brandon, I’ve seen you at work and figured that out a long time ago.” First, thanks for the encouragement. Second, let me be clear, I’m not talking about making an upgrade at my position. So who is the mystery person I’m talking about?

Big reveal: you. You are the best youth pastor your kid will ever have. Let me explain by breaking it down numerically. I get your kid for about 48 hours a year, for some of them it will be a little more, some will be alittle less.  Parents, on the other hand, spend thousands of hours a year with their children. Your student will be in our ministry for 6 years, he or she will be in your house for 18.  Your son is not coming back to my house for Thanksgiving after graduation. Your daughter is not calling me for more money. You and your kids are tied together for a lifetime. You, as a parent, have enormous long-term impact on the direction of your kid’s life, much more than any pastor.

Its not just the numbers, either, The Bible actually places the responsibility of discipling the next generation, not on the church (or any religious instituion), but on the family. Deuteronomy 6:5-7 says, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.”

Wow! The most influential person in your child’s life is you. Maybe you’ve never thought of yourself as a spiritual leader to your family. Maybe you are more of the ‘drop them off at church and hope something good rubs off on them’ kinda guy. My prayer is that you will embrace your position as your kid’s best youth pastor and lead them well. The good news is that it is never too late to begin spiritually investing in your family.

for His fame,


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