Great guest blog just for the ladies from my unbelievable assistant, Katie Creery. Enjoy!
Why Be Modest?
by Katie Creery
OK ladies, have any of you been shopping lately? Probably all of us have! What did you shop for? Shirts, pants, jewelry, shoes (my personal favorite!)…there are lots of items to choose from out there. Well, if any of you are like me, sometimes I actually go shopping with a mission, looking for a very specific item. For example–last summer I decided I was going to shop for the perfect pair of shorts. I left pretty excited and energized thinking, “Yep, today is a good day to buy shorts, and the perfect pair will be waiting in the first store just for me”. You’re thinking ridiculous, right? Well, you would be correct…not only were there not shorts out there waiting for me at the first store, but there were no shorts at all in that store unless you just count the small (very small!) shorts-shaped pieces of jean or cotton cloth hanging on hangers or lying on tables.
Was this a joke? Is that really what those stores expected me to wear? These garments did not contain enough fabric to cover even some underwear !
So, after that disappointment I went to a different store thinking, “Surely not all clothing stores have bought into this type of totally immodest “clothing” …OK, not this store either…OK, not next store…now totally next shopping center…still nothing! The shopping trip for that particular day was officially a “fail”. I started to wonder, “What is a girl supposed to do who really cares about the appearance and appropriateness of the clothing she puts on, and the image she projects?” What can we do to find appropriate, but still cute, clothing (cause let’s be honest, girls, we want to look cute, don’t we)? Well, I guess the short answer to that is to be patient until we do find the right look. There are stores out there that sell cute, but appropriate clothing. It may just mean we have to look a little bit harder to find them. I was eventually able to find a pair of shorts that were a length I was comfortable with, but still stylish.
I really don’t need to tell you where to find your clothes–you and your parents can do that together. I just want you girls to understand why the length of my shorts mattered to me in the first place. If stores were “telling” me by the inappropriate clothing they stock, “buy short shorts” why didn’t I just go ahead and buy what was easily available?
Well, here’s my answer to that. God created me in His perfect image (Genesis 1:26 reminds us of that), in order to glorify His name throughout the earth. Being a young woman in today’s society, I am in a unique position to glorify Him by how I act and dress in my daily life, especially if that (as it so often is) is counter to the culture in which we live today. 1 Peter 2:12 states to “keep your conduct honorable…that they may see your good deeds and glorify God..” In other words, if my faith is as important to me as I say, then I need to live a life that reflects Him, and that includes every daily choice that I make, including how I dress. Wearing immodest clothing will distract from the message God gave me to share with the world, His love. The Bible (1 Timothy 2:9) specifically instructs us that as young women of God we should “dress modestly with decency and propriety” When my physical appearance distracts from His message of love, it means that others, especially boys, may be looking at me as an object, and thinking about how I am dressed (or, in the case of some of today’s fashions, more like undressed!) rather than seeing me as the person God created me to be. Now understand girls, that you are not usually to blame when men’s thoughts are inappropriate, but it is wrong if we unthinkingly or purposefully dress in such a way to lead guys into thinking ungodly, sexually inappropriate thoughts. If we do, we share in the responsibility of contributing to their sin. It is wrong of us to do anything that would cause another Christian to stumble and fall (See Romans 14:13-21 for a good explanation of this).
Finally, girls you deserve better than having guys only thinking about the way you look and the way you dress. That’s all surface, all external. You are beautiful, “knit together by God before you were ever born” (Psalm 139:15) and you don’t need to compromise who God made you to be by what you wear in order to get guys attention. 1 Peter 3:3-4 says “Cultivate inner beauty, the gentle, gracious kind that God delights in”. You get God’s attention simply by being you (after all, He created you and He loves you enough to send His Son to die for you!)
That is the kind of spirit that others will be blessed by and that you are worthy of. Paul puts it this way: “Women should be in humility before God, not primping before a mirror, or chasing the latest fashions, but doing something beautiful for God and becoming beautiful doing it:” (1 Timothy 2:10, The Message)